Guiding Children to Solve their Own Problems
Love and Logic Step One:
– “How sad.”
– “I bet that hurts.”
Love and Logic Step Two:
– Send the “Power Message.”
– “What do you think you’re going to do?”
Love and Logic Step Three:
– Offer choices.
– “Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?”
– At this point, offer a variety of choices that range from bad to good. It’s usually best to start out with the poor choices.
– Each time a choice is offered, go on to step four, forcing the youngster to state the consequence in his/her own words. This means that you will be going back and forth between Love and Logic steps three and four.
Love and Logic Step Four:
– Have the child state the consequences.
– “And how will that work?”
Love and Logic Step Five:
– Give permission for the child to either solve the problem or not solve the problem.
– “Good luck. I hope it works out.”
– Have no fear. If the child is fortunate enough to make a poor choice, he/she may have a double learning lesson.